“Think of a place that’s really perfect. Your own happy place. Go there and all your anger will disappear.”
-Chubbs Peterson, Happy Gilmore
The first time I learned about finding a “happy place” was while watching “Happy Gilmore” — a movie about a bad hockey player who finds out he’s a pretty good golfer, but his anger issues frequently (and hilariously) get in the way. Because I equated ‘finding your happy place’ with an irascible movie character, I never really gave it much thought.
Over time, however, I’ve come to realize how important it is to find a place of peace in your life. It’s not necessarily a matter of tempering anger, like in Happy Gilmore’s case; instead, it’s about learning how to shed the stress and pressure that life can pile on. As fulfilling as our jobs can be, they’re rarely enough to keep us balanced. It’s important to have other passions and obligations, such as sports, watching movies, studying a foreign language, or going to church, for instance. These things help shift our focus from one passion to another, helping to create healthy boundaries that keep us happy.
For my wife and I, a happy place is, literally, “The Happiest Place on Earth” — Disneyland. We’re very fortunate to live not far from there, and we find that it’s a great escape from the stresses of our lives, even if just for a few hours. We not only look forward to going there, but when we leave we look forward to our next visit.
This is just one of many things that inspire and relax us. Hiking in the nearby foothills, for instance, is a great chance to get away from the hustle of city life and appreciate nature. We can’t spend all day there, but even if just for a little bit, it’s nice to get some fresh air and a change of scenery.
Hopefully you have a place or places like these where you can go, if even in your mind, to help keep yourself feel refreshed and relieved. If you have any inspiring ideas, please share them!